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Oops, We Foster Failed AGAIN

So, Teddy aka Couscous is staying. Yep, we foster failed AGAIN. This news will probably not shock anyone who knows me or has ever visited this blog.

My track record with fostering cats (not to mention dogs and rabbits) is not great. I’m hardwired for foster failure; I pretty much fall in love with any animal that is in my house for more than five minutes and if they stay overnight, forget about it. Sleepovers are hard for me- I get attached.

Rosie is still not convinced that Teddy is a keeper. We are taking things slowly with a goal of peaceful coexistence. They will now eat in the same room without drama, but when the food is gone so is the love. Rosie is being a mean girl and Teddy backs down (which is hysterical because he’s HUGE and she’s not).

The struggle not to foster fail

Fortunately Teddy and Ruby have a budding friendship. Even though he is not quite sure what she is – weird cat or space alien – Teddy loves Ruby and happy chirps whenever he sees her. He also thinks her tail is a feather toy and her fluffiness makes a very nice pillow. On Ruby’s part, another cat means more cat food to steal. All good.

If you want to know how NOT to fail at fostering, you can read my previous post here. Though none of these things actually worked so let’s move on.

Oops, we foster failed again

6 Reasons We Foster Failed AGAIN

1 Teddy has a giant head and a teeny-tiny meow. Think Cowardly Lion from the Wizard of Oz only a real cat and not a man in a cat suit.

2. Teddy is about the same size as Ruby and sometimes acts more dog-like than she does. He’s a hybrid cat and dog. It’s like having the second dog we always wanted only couldn’t have because Ruby is iffy around other dogs and prefers cats.

3. Teddy is easy to please and eats anything. Rosie is a picky eater. She’s like a toddler spitting out her vegetables. Only she doesn’t spit her food out, she ignores it or pushes it off the table onto Ruby’s head.

4. Teddy has an adorable and kind of artsy splotch on his nose. I think he is secretly a painter or maybe Picasso in a previous life.

5. Teddy likes to spoon. I’m not sure who initiated this couch potato cuddle (above), but it pretty much sealed the foster failure deal.

6. Teddy did this (watch video below) within his first five minutes at our house. Any cat that can tuck himself in under a blanket should definitely stay with us forever. This is a useful life skill because we live in the Midwest and it gets really cold here – and there are only so many heat vents in our house and Rosie is probably not going to want to share.

Truthfully, anything with fur or paws has me at meow, ruff, or thump (bunny speak). What seals the adoption deal for you? Those little things or moments that make your head explode in cuteness and your heart scream, “ He MUST stay with me forever.”

But seriously …fostering a cat or dog is a really BIG deal and one of the most important things you can do to help homeless pets in your community. When you foster a cat or dog from a shelter, you literally make room for another one to be saved. And while there are worse things than failing at fostering, keeping every foster pet kind of defeats the purpose. You eventually, and probably pretty quickly, run out of space. It’s a glass half-empty or half-full thing. You are giving an animal a home BUT you might not have room to foster another one. We haven’t fostered in awhile because I failed too many times and we ran out of space. I know this on a rational level but I’m not always (ever) rational when it comes to animals.

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  1. September 14, 2018 / 2:16 pm

    Yay for adding Teddy to the family! He sounds so much like Woodrow (our first foster fail). They both have that tiny meow, but are big boys. That photo of Teddy and Ruby is TOO MUCH! Hopefully Rosie will come around, but if not, that’s okay. Olive still hasn’t really come around with Woodrow, but most of the time it is not an issue. Congrats on the new addition!

  2. The Gang at LLB
    September 14, 2018 / 2:35 pm

    Congratulations to both you and Teddy!! Fostering is one of the most fulfilling way to help shelters in need (btw, Arty is our Foster Fail :-)!

  3. September 14, 2018 / 3:15 pm

    You’re a good kind of foster fail. I’d be the same way. I fall in love in about three seconds.

    I linked this post to Feline Friday.

    Have a fabulous day and weekend. ♥

  4. September 14, 2018 / 4:13 pm

    Congratulations for adding Teddy to the family. Love the video that you share. Having so much fun rolling around on the blanket. Thanks for the wonderful share. Have a fun-filled weekend.

  5. September 14, 2018 / 4:44 pm

    Hari Om
    hoorah, says I!!! &*> welcome to Teddy from YAM-aunty xxx

  6. The Island Cats
    September 14, 2018 / 4:45 pm

    Well, congratulations on your foster fail. We know Teddy found a great home.

  7. September 14, 2018 / 5:15 pm

    Teddy found the bestest home ever! We are so happy for all of you!

  8. September 14, 2018 / 5:42 pm

    Being a perfectionist, I dread failure … but this is one fail I’d be proud of. Isn’t it really a success? I mean Teddy found his forever home?!

  9. September 14, 2018 / 7:22 pm

    BOL! Yuppers, NEVER saw that coming…BOL!!!! Welcome to Blogville Teddy! You are one handsome ManCat! I thinks you and Ruby are gonna gets alone just fine.
    HEY RUBY: what up gurl??! Could you steal some of that kitteh foods for me?? Never had the pleasure, butts I hear it’s most FABulous! Just puts it in my transport tunnel.
    Ruby ♥

  10. September 14, 2018 / 7:40 pm

    Oh that is wonderful, I am so happy for all of you, way to go Teddy!

  11. September 14, 2018 / 8:59 pm

    we cannot foster any dog or cat as our adopted cat Lucy who came to us quite feral goes to the dark side if she even sees a cat outside….so it’s just us and Lucy. Have a lovely weekend!

  12. September 14, 2018 / 9:31 pm

    Congratulations. You are going to be very happy together, You will save each other’s lives

  13. September 14, 2018 / 10:05 pm

    Congratulations and am so happy to hear the news, one happy family

  14. Hindy Pearson
    September 14, 2018 / 10:44 pm

    Congratulations on the new addition to your family, and I love the picture!! Glad to hear you’re at peaceful co-existence. I can relate, I am a foster failure as well. The first time I failed the humane society was not very happy and I understood why. Every time it happens they basically lose a much needed foster home, but what can I say, I fall in love easily and I know I would always wonder if that dog or cat got adopted into a loving home. I couldn’t spend my life wondering, and I couldn’t forget about it so the solution is to keep them!

  15. September 14, 2018 / 11:43 pm

    What an adorable photo of Teddy and Ruby. I have never fostered because…. we have ten cats but if we had less I would totally foster and fail too! Congratulations on Teddy finding his home, yay! I think all foster fails were meant to be anyway

  16. September 15, 2018 / 6:34 am

    Congratulations on failing!! That photo of Teddy and Ruby says it all….how could you not keep him? ♥

  17. September 15, 2018 / 7:43 am

    Congratulations on the new member of your family. Teddy is a beauty. I am also a repeat failed foster.

  18. 15andmeowing
    September 15, 2018 / 7:49 am

    Congratulations! This is the best kind of fail 🙂 Teddy is adorable.

  19. September 15, 2018 / 9:01 am

    Congratulations. Teddy looks so cute, especially in the photo curled up with Ruby. I foster failed with my dogs Isabelle and now Kilo so I get it. Sounds great in theory but very hard to give them back.

  20. September 15, 2018 / 9:08 am

    Wonderful read. I’m a foster home for rescued Boston terriers, and SO FAR have only foster failed once. I’m nearing 50 Bostons fostered! It’s so rewarding, I think everyone ought to try it once.

    Congrats on adding to your family!

  21. September 15, 2018 / 9:15 am

    That’s the kind of failure I can happily condone. It’s a win win for everybody 🙂

  22. September 15, 2018 / 9:43 am

    We are glad Teddy found a home–especially since it is yours!

  23. September 15, 2018 / 11:43 am

    Oh what a cute cat, I’m sure I would keep any foster cat too.

  24. The OP Pack
    September 15, 2018 / 4:46 pm

    Yep, we think we knew this one was coming from the first post you did about Teddy. But as long as you can handle one more animal, there is nothing wrong with foster failure:)

    Woos – Lightning, Misty, and Timber

  25. M. K. Clinton
    September 15, 2018 / 6:52 pm

    How could you resist? I know that I would fail miserably at fostering. Actually, Pierre is my daughter’s dog but he stayed with us when she moved to Alaska. We planned to take him to her when they moved but he and Bentley had bonded and we were in love with him. She decided it’d be best if he stayed with us. We are so grateful.

  26. meowmeowmans
    September 15, 2018 / 10:11 pm

    Well, we would say that congratulations are in order. Good job foster failing!

  27. September 16, 2018 / 9:29 am

    Big time congrats on your success (not failure). Teddy is a lucky kitty to have found such a great forever home.

  28. September 16, 2018 / 4:10 pm

    Aaaaaaaaaaaaaw ConCats on findin’ a furever luv. Mommy did purretty well when she fostered and only failed a couple of times. Both fails chose her and refused to go into other homes. Big hugs

    Luv ya’

    Dezi and Raena

  29. September 16, 2018 / 4:28 pm

    I was pretty sure it was going to be a foster fail when you wrote the last post. I’m very excited for all of you and I hope that Rosie warms up to Teddy sooner than later. I briefly considered fostering instead of adopting a third dog, but because my husband isn’t crazy about animals, so I figured adopting was the smarter way to go. (That way he couldn’t change his mind.) I hope to foster kittens next spring, if I can talk him into it.

  30. September 16, 2018 / 5:34 pm

    Congratulations, Teddy! You definitely landed in the purrfect family for you. My boyfriend “fostered” a family member’s cat who needed to be rehomed. That was about five years ago and he’s still there!

  31. September 16, 2018 / 5:44 pm

    YAAAYY!!! ConCatulations! I’m so happy to hear of this epic Foster Fail – it’s a blessing! I cannot believe how close Teddy & Ruby have become already. They must stay together. Rosie will just have to deal with it. I fell in love with all my fosters too, but my husband puts the Kabosh on keeping any of them – other than Phoebe, but that was a whole other saga! This is the Best news. I love Teddy!!
    Love & Biscuits,
    Dogs Luv Us and We Luv Them

  32. September 16, 2018 / 6:07 pm

    I can only imagine how hard it’s going to be to let go once we are able to take in our first foster. I figure on a foster failure as well.

  33. September 17, 2018 / 6:31 am

    Lol I think if I ever tried to foster I would foster fail too. I fall in love too easily and would probably consider running to Mexico to keep the furry one!

  34. The Swiss Cats
    September 17, 2018 / 10:27 am

    Concatulations on your foster fail ! Purrs

  35. September 17, 2018 / 11:30 am

    I think people who foster are wonderful! However, I’m sure I’d be a foster fail because I, too, fall in love with animals as soon as they are under my roof! So happy to hear that Teddy and you found each other.

  36. September 17, 2018 / 1:08 pm

    happee gotcha day two ewe teddy we iz BUZZED HAPPEE FOR EWE….welcome ta yur for everz for ever ever N welcome ta blog land central…..we looks for werd ta reedin mor postz frum ewe N pleez ta tell de bozz we said hi ~~ 🙂 ♥♥

  37. September 17, 2018 / 10:11 pm

    Ohmygosh…Teddy is adorable! Those markings! I love the pic of Teddy and your sweet Ruby, so precious! Congrats – I just love foster fail stories! Teddy is one lucky kitty to have found his way into your family!

  38. September 17, 2018 / 10:52 pm

    Teddy had ME at the blanket covering thing let alone curled up next to Ruby. I am a goner so there is NO WAY YOU COULD!!

  39. Sandra Hangey
    September 19, 2018 / 6:23 am

    Thanks for your comment and I did not know this used to be The Pip. I would fail at every foster, since I am just like you. Teddy is so big and beautiful. I love his head and the painting on his face. he sounds like he is fitting in well… it melts my heart to see a cat and dog sleeping cuddeled. and the video is purrfect. our Jake is not doing well, we fear the end is near. When he was younger we swore one of his parents must have been a cat… he could fly through the air and land on a chest or jump up and swipe a bee out of the air, so glad Teddy has a home

  40. September 19, 2018 / 12:33 pm

    Why am I NOT surprised? HUGE CONCATULATIONS TO YOU!!! When I adopted Cody, it was 2 weeks after my Bobo passed and I thought I wasn’t “ready” Cody was (and is) a cuddler just like Teddy, AND he is more “dog like” in many ways than Dakota! I love the photo of Teddy and Rosie together. They WILL get along, I gave my two no other option lol. Cody is the boss, Dakota knows it and that’s the way it is! Teddy is a total cutie!!!!! I don’t foster because I could never give them up.

  41. September 19, 2018 / 1:34 pm

    Sorry that I missed this post until now! Well…it’s not a failure if you are in love! Concatulations on your new family member!

  42. September 19, 2018 / 9:18 pm

    I am slow in getting here but I am so HAPPY that Teddy is staying. He is gorgeous and obviously incredibly sweet. Congrats on your new family member!

  43. September 25, 2018 / 12:52 pm

    Awww, I love the couch potato cuddle. So awesome and cute!

  44. September 26, 2018 / 5:55 pm

    I would be the *exact* same way!!! We’re so excited for you guys 🙂

  45. September 30, 2018 / 6:14 pm

    Oh, I know I would be a huge foster fail.

  46. December 23, 2018 / 9:46 am

    OMG I would have NEVER been able to let him go either 🙂 What a wonderful boy to have come into your life!

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